Who Wears The Pants In Your Relationship/Marriage?

The game of dominance and submission.

Although every modern woman or man will dismiss this question, it still counts; and yes, it counts in your relationship as well only that you do not want to imagine or talk about it. Let’s face it. One philosopher once described a romantic relationship as a battle of the sexes leading to a disagreement to agree.

Everyone agrees that a relationship is not a cup of tea for anyone. It has its uphills and steep slopes as well. What can keep it going is compromise and sacrifice. Who apologizes first and the most times? When he or she gets mad at you, what do you do? Fight back or swallow and absorb their venting? Who washes the dishes, who spreads the bed, who brings their friends in the house more often and freely? Who decides what to order at a restaurant? Whose career gets more importance in the relationship? Who breaks another’s heart and still calls the shots? And finally, who initiates sex?

The options/conflicting answers for all these questions can be categorized as PANTS or PANTIES, in which sense, pants are, according to the Chambers Thesaurus (2^nd Edition) “Trousers, usually worn by men.” The New Oxford American Dictionary (2009) defines the phrase “wear the pants” as “...be the dominant partner in a relationship or house.”  The assumption in the usage of the word house, we agree, is marriage.

On the other hand, panties, as we all know are defined as “legless underpants worn by women and girls. I am sure you can guess what definition The New Oxford American Dictionary (2009) would give to the word panties, at least basing on the definition they give to Pants.

Basing on all these, therefore, the big questions are:

Where do you draw the line between submissiveness and dominance?

Who wears the pants in your relationship/marriage?

How A Man Thinks Vs How a Woman Thinks: Top Reason For Breakups!

The 1-2-3 You Must Know

1. Over 80% of first relationships end in breakups despite having an element of purity.
2. About 25 percent of first-love marriages end up in divorce.
3. Men who love genuinely do not necessarily mean to marry.

Have you ever been in a sour breakup? What happened to your first relationship? Who did you blame for the break-up if it happened. Did the break-up change you for better or for worse?

These are questions everyone never asks themselves. Very few people want to remember their first love relationship because they were badly disappointed and hurt. When the first relationship dies, it dies with so many desirable attributes of one’s emotional strength. Women are more affected than men. Trust is one thing that is always lost once. When you suffer your first breakup, the probability of investing all your trust in the next partner is eroded by a fairly big percentage. This means that the relationship will never be the same as the first one. But what is the cause of all these woes?

The first villain in breakups is usually the man. Men are most of the time, if not always, on the blame-receiving end. Whereas it is not their wish, part of the blame is justified. There is always the assumption that what they imagine is what the lady believes as well…And what is this stinging poison that ends many relationships?

The Big Bomb…

The way a man thinks and feels is different from what a woman wants and believes. This is how:

 Men: All men go into relationship with the idea of marriage or an “everlasting commitment” non-existent in their minds. A man just wants to try things out, and push as far as it can go. Believe me when marriage drops in, it is part of the “pushing the relationship to the farthest it can go.” This behavior is inborn, and it is the reason why a man who is troubled in a marriage is likely to go for a divorce, something women hesitate to do.

 Women: On the other hand, all girls dream of getting married (and wedding). This is the direct opposite of what a man dreams. These things are not said in a relationship. When a man is attracted to you, he does not see you in terms of a marriage partner. A woman who is attracted to you forecasts a good husband. When a break-up occurs, women feel cheated because for them a relationship is supposed to lead to marriage. A man does not understand that language! That is why men are “evil” in relationships.

The crazy part which explains man vs. woman thought pattern…

A man chooses a mate, a woman chooses a companion! A man gets attracted to the physical part of a woman first. Other things come in far much later. He sees you in terms of his bodily desires and what he fancies in a woman. A woman, despite looking at the physique, concentrates on the good behavior or heart in a man!

Did you know…

…that a man can love multiple women, but choose one for marriage and keep the others for fancy desires? It does not mean he does not love you. It is natural that men have the affinity for variety, a behavior which can be suppressed or not.